Showing posts with label deployment. Show all posts
Showing posts with label deployment. Show all posts

Sunday, March 25, 2012

How to stay close when your spouse is away


I waiting patiently for my husband to get a address so I can start sending him mail. In the meantime I will get my cards ready. I have 50 ready to go. I try to keep a stash of cards by the front door. Ready to go into the mail box. That way as the kids can throw a letter in with my card or a school paper. Plus they get to run to the mailbox everyday.
My thought for the day is: Come on Army, I need a address to send my husband cards and letters. It makes him feel special and it makes me feel like I am helping him.
Pamela

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Packing




Where are you going? When will you be back? Will we still get pizza? I miss you? I could ride on your lap on the plane? But I am big enough to be in the Army? Will you come home? I love you!
The words that are said in my heart as my hero packs for his deployment break my heart. The older children have been there so they understand a little better but the little ones do not understand yet.
Pamela

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

AT&T-ouch this hurts

Dear Cingular,
After 12 years of amazing customer service you have not only let me down but saddened me to the point of tears.
Let me explain. Several months ago my hero called and said he would like information on suspending his account when he deploys. Something we have never done in previous deployments. You were so kind and assured him nothing changes (except our bill). He would be able to keep his number and his current plan and features.
Yesterday I walked into our local store. I asked for the wonderful OLGA, the lady who has always treated us wonderfully and respectfully and has worked with your company for 12 years. I hand her my hero’s orders and she makes the phone call to your company. The same thing she has done a million times. This is a military community and there must have been 25 soldiers walk into the store while I was there.
Here is where the problem happened. She called to say she needed to suspend the account. She was told that they cannot suspend his account because he is not deployed he is in basic training. Let’s think about this, he has had service with a military discount for 12 years. I do not know of any basic training that is 12 years long. Olga offered to fax in a copy of the orders and was told over and over that it was not necessary because the DOD website says my hero is in basic training. She assured him that she had met my hero many times and he was not in basic. That he has been in the Army for 19 years. The man refused to accept anything she said. She asked to speak to his supervisor and was put on hold for no less than 20 minutes. Finally the employee came back on and gave her a fax number. An incorrect fax number. I waited another 10 minutes while she got that figured out and faxed in.
I called AT&T this afternoon to verify his account had been suspended. I was told:
a. That it was in problem resolution and they had until February 28th to decide if they would accept his orders. NO, I DID NOT LIE TO YOU, this is what outrages me, and I feel like you are calling me a liar when I can prove otherwise. Remember I have been a customer for twelve years.
b. That although we were told months ago by the company and again yesterday in the store that he would NOT lose his roll over minutes or any current plan, we would now lose his rollover minutes. When he comes home he can have the same data package and phone number. But would lose any texting rates and anything else like roll over.
c. You also told me that you would call the store and educate them on what they are doing wrong. That the policy changed last year and they must not know the current information. That you sent my hero an e-mail a month ago explaining what he would lose. That you no longer suspend accounts, you close them.
d. So I called my local store back. I was again told that all that was done was his number is suspended (or cancelled if you want to be technical) and I am now the primary number. That WE have not lost anything.

I cannot believe the amount of run around. I am now told I have to wait to find out if you will accept his orders and you have until the 29th to decide if you are going to believe his government orders or not. I would like you to tell me why I should keep a service who does not know the regulations as a company.
I am sorry but I do not understand how a company that deals with soldiers on a daily basis cannot get their act together. My hero is not setting on a beach somewhere; he is not here reading good night stories with his children. He is fighting for your freedom. Your freedom to treat him like trash, to tell him that his military orders are not worth the paper they are written on. Please help me understand this. If I calculated correctly I paid you over 15 THOUSAND dollars in the last 12 years. I am asking you to comp us maybe $200 and I get this amount of run around. How is this okay?
Pamela

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

This is hard






This is hard. We have been through seven other deployments but this is still hard. My children are feeling it. Even the little girl I keep is feeling it. One day this week out of the blue she said “I miss my daddy, I miss your daddy, and I miss my daddy”. She spoke in a mean voice that is not normal. It brought me to tears. Her dad is a soldier.
Jason asks each morning if daddy is home. Rob has been gone a month and is only home shortly before leaving again. So every morning he ask if Dad is gone or at work? He needs to know what to expect.
The last several nights Grace has climbed into my bed at night and not slept soundly. This morning Grace woke up after Rob left for PT and said “where is daddy”. As soon as I said he went to work and would be home later she fell soundly asleep. It was as if she as soon as she knew today is not the day she could sleep again.
This is hard. I want to take away their pain. I want them to understand it. So often people will say to me that it must be hard to deal with six kids while he is away. I always smile and make some nice comment. Honestly, the kids are what keep me going. They are amazing. The smiles, the questions, the hugs, that is what keeps me going.
But in my brain I think I wish someone noticed the kids. I wish there was a way of someone to read their mind. How they feel when there is an event and dad is not there. This summer our boat will set untouched. No long trips to the lake. Noone, to fix toys as they break. No one to complain to about mom not letting them do something. Instead they will have skype phone calls and lots of mail being sent. A countdown of days. They will have fear of rather their dad will come home. They will have boyscout camp outs without dad, movie nights without dad, lonely Saturday mornings without dad to wrestle with. They will look at his truck and remind me that in dad’s truck they can act silly and make weird noises with their body.
For today I will choose to enjoy the day. I will not think about the days to come but will think of the years to come. About the camp outs next year. About the fishing trips next year. I will think about our reunion, the wonderful hugs that come that first day. I will focus on making sure that we have welcome home signs. I will focus on summer plans that the kids and I can do without dad. I will focus on care packages. I will focus on extra hugs for the kids. I will focus on the blessings in my life and the blessings the Army has brought to our life.
Pamela

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

His first hour at home

My hero is home, my hero is home! I thought he was going to be home late last night but he got home in the afternoon. We came home last night and 5 children met him at the door and within seconds it was crazy. They brought in the puppy and then the cat. The cat and dog together always makes things wild.
In the hour he was home before bedtime he tried to fix the new $50 heater the girls poured wax in. Then he fixed the remote control and started to fix a broken laptop before I stopped him.
I did not think we would ever get the kids to bed. Coming home must be hard and over whelming for our soldiers. He had 8 little people climbing on him and wanting attention. While they are climbing on him his wife is looking at him begging for attention and all he wants is a hot shower and a moment without a million people around him.
He did warn the kids that if just one child came to his bed last night he would “stick his boot where the son did not shine”. This is really comical to me to me. So while last night no one came to our bed and I got amazing nights sleep and slept until 7am. Within minutes of waking up this is what our bed looked like:







It is going to be a great day!
Pamela
 
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